Does My Husband Really Want A Divorce? (and How to Stop It)
Is it bluster? Does my husband really want a divorce? More importantly, what can you do to stop him?
More marriages can be saved from the brink of divorce than you might think. Signs he really wants a divorce could be taking more of an interest in his appearance, spending more time physically (and emotionally) distant from you and being hyper critical.
Whether he really wants a divorce or not, if the threat of it is there it’s time to start putting in the work to save your marriage (and the quicker the better).
Every marriage is going to be different in some way, shape or form. Hopefully the advice here will help give you some guidance but if you want some more specific advice then take a free marriage assessment quiz. It can help fix the underlying problems, not just address the symptoms.
When it comes to love and relationships, women have always boasted of being true experts and having much more intuition to read feelings than men. This fact also makes that in marriages, women are always aware of everything their husbands do and say, believing that this way they will guess before time any problem in their relationship: like an infidelity or the intention of their husband to leave her for another one.
However, that intuition does not always work and more than guessing something quickly, the only thing they get is to be filled with doubts and suspicions that do not bring them anything good. Women are intelligent and very intuitive, true. But this does not mean that they can guess everything; sometimes they need a little extra help.
Do you think your husband doesn’t love you anymore? Do you suspect that he wants to divorce you and go with another woman? All those doubts are common in marriages after the first three years, since passion is disappearing and routine can lead to suspicious behavior, which a woman usually interprets as a sign that something is very wrong.
Next, to help you identify if your husband is really thinking about divorcing you, we will give you a list of the most obvious signs that this is really going to happen.
Does my husband really want a divorce?
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Work harder than you think
This is usually the first sign that puts all women on alert: my husband stays longer in the office and doesn’t explain to me what he’s doing. Many husbands take refuge in their jobs when their marriage begins to falter, although that doesn’t always have to mean that they want to get divorced.
Work stress and a bad streak in your marriage can end up causing you to distance yourself, making your job the best refuge where you can avoid your constant reproaches. Although, the key to find out if that behavior is a sign of something more serious or not, is in seeing if with time your attitude improves and work stops being a priority, or if on the contrary it accentuates and leaves your marriage in oblivion.
Any man can have more work than usual at some time of the year, but if he is really thinking of leaving you, that will only be the beginning of your problems.
He is distant
Marriages go through all sorts of stages, since it is impossible to maintain the passion and joy of the early years, and there are times of really serious crisis in which divorce seems the only solution.
However, all the moments of crisis can be overcome if both parts continue feeling united and in love, while if one of the two begins to distance itself and shows itself emotionally cold and elusive, the thing becomes complicated. If you notice that your husband doesn’t want to talk to you about almost anything, you barely do things together and you don’t have sex either, you may start to worry.
Emotional detachment is a clear sign that something is really wrong and that your husband may be thinking about separating from you. Infidelity? Fatigue? Who knows? But something strange is going on and you need to find out as soon as possible.
You have constant arguments
All marriages argue, in fact all people argue, it’s natural. Each person has his or her own opinion about things, and although on many occasions you meet other people who share your ideas, there will also be many others with whom you will end up arguing; and the same thing happens with marriages.
Throughout your relationship you will discuss many things: the decoration of the house, the education of the children, the monthly expenses, etc. However, if a marriage works well, all these discussions are easily resolved and do not transcend. The problem is when the discussions do not stop and acquire a too aggressive tone; then you must start to worry.
If your husband insults you and doesn’t apologize, blames you for everything that happens to him and shows no signs of repentance for how he treats you, you may start to think that something serious is happening to him. Maybe it’s just something that happened on time or maybe he thinks it’s best to get a divorce; try to find out as soon as possible and remedy it.
He dresses better and has started to take care of herself
One of the main reasons why women around the world think that their husbands are being unfaithful is that they start taking care of themselves and dressing better for no apparent reason. Nowhere is it forbidden for a married man to start taking more care of his image and to practice sports more often in order to lose a few pounds; nowhere does it say so, but for a woman that is the first sign that something is wrong.
There are married couples who like to take care of themselves and motivate each other to do sports and to dress better, which usually makes both dress similarly and always look neat; but both, not one if and the other not. The problem arises when the husband begins to buy new clothes and changes his usual cologne for a sexier one. And if we add to that the fact that all those clothes are worn in secret or to go out in places where his wife does not go, suspicions are multiplied.
Therefore, if you notice that your husband is dressing up for someone other than you and that his change of habits is too sudden and he hasn’t consulted you before, you may be worried because something strange is going on.
These are some of the signs that will help you figure out if your husband really wants to divorce you or if it’s just your imagination. Don’t hesitate to follow our advice. You will feel much more relieved!
