I Broke My Wife’s Heart How Do I Fix It (Properly)

Marriage Clever
6 min readSep 27, 2020

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I broke my wife’s heart how do I fix it?

I’m not going to tell you there’s a magic button or way to snap your fingers and make it instantly better but I will tell you it’s possible to save your marriage even after you’ve broke your wife’s heart.

You’re going to have to do some of the heavy lifting (that’s for sure) but I’ve seen marriages overcome obstacles and come back better than they were. This is going to have to be something you really commit to and the timeframe is going to depend on just how badly you’ve messed up.

Every marriage is going to be different in some way, shape or form. Hopefully the advice here will help give you some guidance but if you want some more specific advice then take a free marriage assessment quiz. It can help fix the underlying problems, not just address the symptoms.

When, out of immaturity, out of sobriety, out of spending a pleasant time with another person, a husband finds himself in the dilemma of thinking “I broke my wifes heart how do I fix it”, he must keep in mind that a woman in pain, whether it be from infidelity, from bad treatment, from her husband’s distrust of her, or from whatever reasons have hurt her heart, she can act without thinking of the consequences and give back the coin.

And this is what she should focus her actions on to avoid an imminent divorce, so you have to look for strategies to heal that lost trust.

Some advice to regain your wife’s trust

  • Do not demand that he trust you, if you have caused wounds to his heart, it is logical to think that he has lost the trust he could have had in you, you must act in a way that your words are backed up by your actions, it is not enough to say this will not happen again.
  • Under no circumstances should you use a lie, she is susceptible to what has happened and lying will only make the situation worse, for the sake of the relationship you must act with sincerity, however hard the truth may be to tell, it can heal wounds.
  • You must not keep secrets from your wife, do not forget that between heaven and earth there is nothing hidden, if you hide things, sooner or later she will discover these things and this will make your situation worse.
  • She needs a demonstration of your love, act in front of her just as you are, this will provide her with security so that she can know your way of reacting, and that she can create expectations about something that you are not.
  • Consult her, never think you know what she is thinking or how she is feeling, communicating is essential, she needs to feel important, and knowing that her things are important to you, will be a point in your favor.
  • You must give her time, it is very important for you, do not harass her, if you have been unfaithful the communication has suffered deterioration, a brief isolation will do well, taking into account that this time should not be too long.
  • Don’t let anger, sadness or any other feeling disturb the reality of the situation you are going through, your focus should be on solving the cause of the problem and how to solve it.
  • If the cause of the situation is a third party, end that relationship immediately and clearly, that person is the most important part of your problem. Cheating is a choice and you must face your mistake by making it clear to your spouse.
  • Constancy, do everything you have to do to resolve the situation, without hesitation, thinking that you have to start from scratch to regain your partner’s trust.

Behavior to follow

Think I broke my wife's heart how do I fix it and act, the divorce is not the option, move it away from your thoughts, now the main thing and what you should focus your efforts is to recover it, to heal intelligently the wounds you have caused, you must act as a doctor would do when healing a wound.

  • Dedicate yourself with nobility to solving important matters of the home, with this attitude you will begin to demonstrate the importance it has for you.
  • Women by nature are very sensitive to details, make an effort to fill her with details, this has nothing to do with material issues, a small flower, a message expressing how sorry you are for making a mistake that has endangered the relationship, a drawing made by yourself that expresses your feelings towards her, take her to dinner, prepare your dinner at home with a romantic setting, are options you can implement.
  • Sexuality in a relationship represents a large percentage of the whole, you have to find a way to make yourself unforgettable to her, for that you have to be the best lover, if you can get her to be with you again in intimacy, she should try to make it your best, focus on making her feel the deepest ecstasy she has ever felt, make love with feeling where you can take her soul to exorbitant levels, use relaxation techniques, make her understand that every inch of her skin is of great value to you.

They say that the problems of a couple are fixed in bed, because it is the place where they know each other best, so take advantage of it, of that moment that you live with her will depend on saving the marriage, put the maximum of you so that it is a full experience of happiness.

  • Praise her constantly, tell her that she looks good every time she gets ready, that she knows that she is the most important value in your life.
  • Share the household chores with her
  • Invite her to renew her wedding vows as a sign of your interest in her, choose the church where they got married, and take her there, propose to her as if they were getting married again, and to reinforce this behavior take her on a trip to fulfil a second honeymoon.
  • Take her to the movies constantly, you can choose movies where the themes are similar to the one you are living and where they always reconcile in the end and are very happy, there are many with this theme, that will make her feelings come out, and she will end up identifying with the beautiful ending.

Finally, always keep in mind that you should not give her any space, it is not a matter of harassing her, but do not leave the field free so that a third party can take advantage of the situation by initiating a plan to conquer her.

Wounded women are usually easy prey for the intentions of any man, so you must remain in force, be present at all times, your messages, your calls, your gifts, your praise, your attention now more than ever should be present, that she feels she is really your soul mate.

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Marriage Clever
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