I Cheated On My Husband How Do I Fix It (Easily)

You might be surprised to learn how many marriages survive infidelity but when I hear something like I cheated on my husband how do I fix it? I have both good news and bad news.

Firstly, I think it’s possible to save any marriage even if you’ve cheated but it’s going to be tough, painful for a while and at least one of you are going to have to really try.

Every marriage is going to be different in some way, shape or form. Hopefully the advice here will help give you some guidance but if you want some more specific advice then take a free marriage assessment quiz. It can help fix the underlying problems, not just address the symptoms.

Infidelity is the most significant cause of marriage breakups that end in divorce. But it doesn’t have to mean the end as long as both parties put the time and effort in to save it.

Around four in ten marriages have the obstacle of an affair placed in their path at some point. If you’re one of those and you ask yourself, I cheated on my husband how do I fix it, the good news is, around half of those marriages in the US survive the turmoil of an affair.

Communicate

First of all, end the affair right now and cut off all communication with the person. Now is the time to talk and talk some more. One of the main reasons couples cheat is because of a lack of communication between each other, so nows, not the time to pull the draw bridge up.

Be open with each other; express your feelings, both good and bad. There’s no room for sentiment here; it’s a marriage you’re trying to save, so be honest.

The truth sometimes hurts, but rest assured, your husband will want to know it all the same. It’s confession time, and there’s no room for secrets if there is any chance of forgiveness, questions need answering. How long has the affair been going on?

Was the other party aware of your marriage? The questions will seem endless and there’s little doubt that this exercise is going to be an emotional event for both parties, but it’s necessary.

If your husband wasn’t suspicious by nature before the affair, rest assured his suspiciousness will be heightened now. Every text message you receive, every notification ping on Facebook, every telephone call is going to send his imagination into overdrive. Because of this, you need to be open about these things. Show him your Facebook page regularly. Let him see your phone for messages. Don’t hide anything, or your chances of regaining your husband’s trust back are zero.

Things could become more complicated if your affair were with a work colleague. It will more than likely mean you have to quit your job, but by doing so shows your genuine commitment to saving the marriage.

Be Sincere

Saying sorry just won’t cut it here. You have to mean it. You may find writing a letter helps. Write it from the heart, make it meaningful, and read it to your partner, remember, it’s all about communication. Remorse is the key here. Your husband has to see and feel that you sincerely regret your actions. If the other person tries to communicate with you in the future, you need to inform your husband, don’t delete messages without showing him first. Better still, change your phone number.

Time

Please don’t rush the process of healing, it’s going to take time, and there will be moments when your husband will bring the affair up again during the process, and in the future, it’s your reaction that matters. There will be more questions he wants answering, so answer them no matter how tiresome it becomes. And remember it’s a marriage between two people you are trying to save, so spend as much quality time together as possible.

Should You Tell Him If You Haven’t Already?

If we’re assuming your husband is under the impression you are monogamous.

Whether you tell him or not depends on one thing. Do you respect him as a person, or are you more interested in yourself and don’t really give a shit about your husband? If it’s the second option, don’t tell him. You won’t change, you’ll keep doing it, and you’ll keep hurting him. Might as well add one more disrespectful, hateful, selfish action to the list and continue lying.

On the other hand, if you respect your husband as a person and consider yourself to be at least a semi decent person, you should obviously tell him. Lying to him on top of cheating on him is ridiculous. Your husband is a person who deserves equal respect to you, so he deserves the chance to decide if he wants to leave you. You broke the agreement, not him, you don’t get to decide the terms of the consequences.

Shoul