Signs Your Marriage Can’t Be Saved
What are the signs your marriage can’t be saved? Is there a way to get back to where you were before?
All marriages go through problems at some points (including those marriages which look perfect on the outside) and I see a lot of marriages going through problems. You might be surprised at what a marriage can come back from but the biggest sign a marriage can’t be saved is neither of you trying.
If you have any hope to get back to where you once were, at least one of you is going to have to be working hard.
Every marriage is going to be different in some way, shape or form. Hopefully the advice here will help give you some guidance but if you want some more specific advice then take a free marriage assessment quiz. It can help fix the underlying problems, not just address the symptoms.
Forty-two percent of marriages in the UK end in divorce, with between forty and fifty percent in the US going the same way. Marriage is probably the second biggest commitment anyone can make in their life behind choosing to start a family. There are many reasons why marriages fail, financial problems, infidelity, incompatibility, or just plain falling out of love.
There’s no doubt some will fight tooth and nail to salvage their marriage, others will jump ship at the first sign of trouble, but what are the signs that your marriage can’t be saved? Certain marriages are dead in the water, regardless of any effort to try and keep them going.
That fling with the girl in the office or those illicit meetings with the boss at work, affairs ruin marriages, and even those that survive them are often poisoned for a long time after, if not forever. But a sure sign that it’s the end is when one partner refuses to end an affair. This is paramount to throwing your partners’ feelings in the trash. Any respect has gone, along with the marriage.
Other signs that your marriage can’t be saved are constant fights over the most trivial of things. Everyone argues at some point, but when these outbursts are occurring from the moment you wake up till the moment you go to bed, then it may be time to call time on the partnership. It’s rare for couples to argue for no reason; there is almost always an underlying problem. It’s avoiding the issue that will destroy the marriage.
“You always, you never,” are words of criticism rather than complaint and when this becomes the norm and every little thing you do is jumped on by you or your partner, or both, then you are in one deep negative hole which may be impossible to dig yourselves out of. The flip side of this is walking on eggshells, afraid to say anything in case it offends, like putting a padlock on the gates of communication and throwing away the key, along with the marriage.
Maybe your persona has taken on that of a single person. Are you looking to the future without your partner to the point where you are making financial and personal decisions as if you’re on your own? A clear sign of your heart and soul not being in the marriage.
Abuse, in any shape or form, should be a sign to bail out and quick, sadly it’s not always the case, and many relationships continue after abuse, with many of them having a recurring theme throughout causing misery, pain, and worse still, death. Abuse on any level is just a total lack of respect for someone else, and one of the significant signs a marriage can’t be saved.
“I don’t love you anymore” are words that can cut like a knife, but when both parties reciprocate them, there’s very little doubt the marriage has run its course. When a marriage is void of love, there’s little, if anything, to save.
